tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35675426.post116291146375722518..comments2023-10-12T06:58:26.451-04:00Comments on Mary's View: Parents and EducationMaryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02040099513110890878noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35675426.post-1162989656844627352006-11-08T07:40:00.000-05:002006-11-08T07:40:00.000-05:00Laura - that post is hilarious and so familiar. D...Laura - that post is hilarious and so familiar. During our 3 years living in DE, I worked at the department of education in a building of 170 employees, 85% of them were menopausal women. I was lucky to be in two real nice workgroups but I peeked over my cubicle once to see a lady trash a box of files outside the director's office door, yelling like a nut...we tiptoed around the office for the rest of the day and she retired a month later. There was a physical girl fight there once, too, between two pre-menopausal women but that happened before my time. I kind of miss the cubicle atmosphere and the camaradary that went with it. Some of the workgroups were downright scary, though. <BR/><BR/>That was a great rant! Love the bunny.Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02040099513110890878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35675426.post-1162955731566551592006-11-07T22:15:00.000-05:002006-11-07T22:15:00.000-05:00Have to laugh at Susan calling those moms *damn pe...Have to laugh at Susan calling those moms *damn perky*!<BR/><BR/>I have no choice but to listen to her - she talks so darn loud.<BR/><BR/>And I am not sweet with her. Actually, <A HREF="http://somewhereinnj.blogspot.com/2006/09/does-it-improve-upon-silence.html" REL="nofollow">this old post</A> was mostly about her.LauraHinNJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08329387562570495570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35675426.post-1162935816162592612006-11-07T16:43:00.000-05:002006-11-07T16:43:00.000-05:00Laura,I don't know how you are able to listen to t...Laura,<BR/><BR/>I don't know how you are able to listen to the Mom who calls her son in Med school to remind him of things...<BR/><BR/>One day your sweetness will flip on her! LOL!Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02040099513110890878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35675426.post-1162935614471489012006-11-07T16:40:00.000-05:002006-11-07T16:40:00.000-05:00Susan,Post this rant for those too damned perky ty...Susan,<BR/><BR/>Post this rant for those too damned perky types. They have always irritated me.Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02040099513110890878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35675426.post-1162922606884155412006-11-07T13:03:00.000-05:002006-11-07T13:03:00.000-05:00Laura and Susan,Working in a community college, I ...Laura and Susan,<BR/><BR/>Working in a community college, I was shocked to see a mother challenging a teacher and, it really hit a nerve with me! I agree that education today is pressure packed and way too competitive for parents and their students, for sure. And it's a shame that some parents you and I describe live their lives fretting over a 90 in U.S. History vs. a 95... It's so complex.<BR/><BR/>My daughter learned very early on that I had my job to do and she had hers to do. I encouraged her, listened to her, and helped her when she needed it. But, frankly, past grade 4 I just couldn't do the math! LOL! And there were a few times that I can count on one hand (once in her college years) that I typed a paper she had written to save her time while she headed to swim practice every night. She's 24 now and made it, earned her own grades, and took some hits she earned, too.<BR/><BR/>NCLB and Exceptional Children are two topics deserving another post one of these days. <BR/><BR/>Laura, keep your standards and give those C's. Susan, I don't know you very well yet, but there's no doubt in my mind that your girls will be strong and independent, like you.<BR/><BR/>I'm glad my rant didn't offend anyone (yet).<BR/><BR/>LOLMaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02040099513110890878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35675426.post-1162920813887135262006-11-07T12:33:00.000-05:002006-11-07T12:33:00.000-05:00I have two girls, (as you know) and they are in pr...I have two girls, (as you know) and they are in preschool.<BR/>And I can feel the Parent Pressure already. IN PRESCHOOL. Most of the other moms are of a type I can't stand. They are pushy, flighty, shallow, too-damn-perky types. There are two moms that I feel that I can actually have a conversation with, that doesn't involve Precious Little Olivia's newest accomplishment. I can see the future in these women and kids.<BR/><BR/>Isabelle and Lorelei are young, but I am drilling into their heads responsibility, ownership of their lives, and consequences. They know that life isn't fair and they need to learn to deal with it. And they GET it.<BR/>I liked your rant. I'd like to print it out and paste in on the preschool doors.Susan Gets Nativehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00216170589750418861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35675426.post-1162918582864022382006-11-07T11:56:00.000-05:002006-11-07T11:56:00.000-05:00Sorry for the typos!Sorry for the typos!LauraHinNJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08329387562570495570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35675426.post-1162918358979727662006-11-07T11:52:00.000-05:002006-11-07T11:52:00.000-05:00I don't have many stories to share about this as a...I don't have many stories to share about this as a college teacher, surprisingly. There was a student that I worked with in the learning lab who was very learning disabled - his mother clearly did all of his work for him because he would come to lab with it done and could not explain or reproduce a single bit of it. I wondered what she hoped to accomplish for him by doing his work?<BR/><BR/>The ladies I work with at my day job are a whole other story! One in particular. She has a son in medical school and she still calls to wake him up each day and reminds him about what he has to study for an upcoming test. In medical school!!<BR/><BR/>Her daughter just started at NYU and she's doing the same thing with her. The girl can't function independtly of her mother. It is really sad for both of them. I overheard her talking to a coworker about the upcoming Parent's Day and how she couldn't wait to talk to the professors and tell them all the things they were doing that she didn't agree with and how she couldn't understand why her daughter wasn't getting straight A's on every assignment. Ridiculous!<BR/><BR/>My sister-in-law does every homework assigment with my neice - has done so since kindergarten.<BR/><BR/>My parents went to conferences and asked if my homework was done, usually. The responsibility was mine and I understood that, even as a kid.<BR/><BR/>I don't know that we can only blame parents for being hyper-involved. Education has become so high-pressure and high stakes and it's hard to get a decent job even with a college degree.<BR/><BR/>Most of my students seem to think they deserve an A just for showing up and doing all the work. I don't think that way and figure that is the minimum and earns a C.<BR/><BR/>Sorry to go on so, but you've hit a nerve with me.LauraHinNJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08329387562570495570noreply@blogger.com