tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35675426.post2803696301638176968..comments2023-10-12T06:58:26.451-04:00Comments on Mary's View: Melancholy in MarylandMaryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02040099513110890878noreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35675426.post-73893631282948114702007-10-29T17:41:00.000-04:002007-10-29T17:41:00.000-04:00Oh Mary, Mary,Tender heart. You give words to all ...Oh Mary, Mary,<BR/><BR/>Tender heart. You give words to all the inchoate feelings we aging children have as we struggle with the pain of saying goodbye - again and again.<BR/><BR/>You break my heart and then restore me with a smile. Those dear, funny pups. No wonder they follow you to the bathroom door and listen for your car in the driveway. <BR/><BR/>You are precious.<BR/><BR/>Sending you a hug . . .<BR/>Love,<BR/>CathyCathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00548755592157386484noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35675426.post-12844143410157057962007-10-28T23:24:00.000-04:002007-10-28T23:24:00.000-04:00Oh, life sure throws some challenges our way! I c...Oh, life sure throws some challenges our way! I can't imagine going through what you are. It is good, though, that your father isn't in pain and he really doesn't know what is happening to him. Try to find something positive in your visits and just keep plugging along. My thoughts and loving-kindness are with you.Alyssahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15806756079227306837noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35675426.post-75615486894031616112007-10-28T20:13:00.000-04:002007-10-28T20:13:00.000-04:00Mary, I'll say a prayer for Lynne's mom, your dad,...Mary, I'll say a prayer for Lynne's mom, your dad, and you. I hope you have a good visit with your dad.Davidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12744599834332468794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35675426.post-22924737828943336622007-10-27T18:30:00.000-04:002007-10-27T18:30:00.000-04:00Mary, I hope the visit goes well ... it's good tha...Mary, <BR/>I hope the visit goes well ... it's good that you are spending time with your father even if it breaks your heart. <BR/><BR/>Thankfully there are all sorts of good things in life that lift our spirits and let us enjoy the moments that we have here.katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03979577122006222781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35675426.post-39644656149145486272007-10-27T11:05:00.000-04:002007-10-27T11:05:00.000-04:00Thanks for visiting my blog! I really like the pic...Thanks for visiting my blog! I really like the picture of the grasshoper on yours. For a moment I thought it was just a stick!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35675426.post-33493488000411804732007-10-27T07:56:00.000-04:002007-10-27T07:56:00.000-04:00It's been WAY TO LONG since I checked your blog, M...It's been WAY TO LONG since I checked your blog, Mary! Your pictures make me want to get this camera crackin since this fall beauty will be faded and gone soon. Your words of reflection hit so close to home. Reading the comments as I did....especially those of "naturegirl".... show the chord you have hit with a lot of us. Thanks for the gift of you, your blog and your insights on life. I'll be a better blogger because of it. <BR/>"The happiest people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything they have."Billhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13787903460292375166noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35675426.post-65423720273707830582007-10-26T22:56:00.000-04:002007-10-26T22:56:00.000-04:00Taking your photos with you is a wonderful idea--e...Taking your photos with you is a wonderful idea--especially those of your animals. Animals have a way of bringing peace to so many, especially when not in good health.<BR/>I understand your unsettledness about the visit. When past memories are so happy, the contrast with what now may be can seem very harsh. Hard to not feel the pangs.<BR/>My thoughts go with you--I, too, understand this time.nina at Nature Remains.https://www.blogger.com/profile/07888238636692649668noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35675426.post-91550709159721603042007-10-26T22:21:00.000-04:002007-10-26T22:21:00.000-04:00It's tough visiting someone who is not the way you...It's tough visiting someone who is not the way you remember them from years back.<BR/><BR/> I visited my grandfather often when he went in to the nursing home and it can be draining to try to make conversation with someone who isn't communicating much.-I always try to remember that a person is taking in more than they might show.<BR/><BR/>Holy smokes! That's a lot of waxwings!-Glad the rain is coming-it made it here too.Larryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17955054342034509500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35675426.post-41235947128784063502007-10-26T22:07:00.000-04:002007-10-26T22:07:00.000-04:00You can't fix your Dad, but maybe you can interest...You can't fix your Dad, but maybe you can interest or amuse him. My thoughts are also with you this weekend, Mary - and hope you can make each other smile, even if he's not sure who you are! <BR/><BR/>I don't know if you saw the recent movie "Away From Her" with Julie Christie and Olympia Dukakis? Its focus was not on parent being left at the home by their children, but on one spouse having to take the other to a care facility. It's a good movie, but bring tissues. <BR/><BR/>Annie at the Transplantable RoseAnnie in Austinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14662139490401110432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35675426.post-12433810452918328592007-10-26T11:11:00.000-04:002007-10-26T11:11:00.000-04:00Oh Mary, I understand too, completely. Tonight & t...Oh Mary, <BR/>I understand too, completely. Tonight & this weekend I'll be visiting my parents, both are 91, in an assisted living residence in Williamsburg. It's REALLY HARD to see your parents, those closest souls to your heart, in more pain, with new medicines, yeah. I guess there are a lot of us treading this road. I will keep you in prayer this weekend.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35675426.post-67132757396817850612007-10-26T00:08:00.000-04:002007-10-26T00:08:00.000-04:00Mary, I wish I was there to give you a hug and mak...Mary, I wish I was there to give you a hug and make you a cup of tea. My heart is so sad right now for you. I will pray for your Dad and for you dear Mary. love nita~Red Tin Heart~https://www.blogger.com/profile/06671156484674719228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35675426.post-20030043773724973072007-10-25T22:27:00.000-04:002007-10-25T22:27:00.000-04:00I know how hard it is for you Mary. Please know t...I know how hard it is for you Mary. Please know that my thoughts are with you.<BR/><BR/>Love,<BR/>Lauriedmmgmfmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09872482306885344135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35675426.post-38726398489841672312007-10-25T21:05:00.000-04:002007-10-25T21:05:00.000-04:00Wow, look at all of those cedar waxwings Mary! Th...Wow, look at all of those cedar waxwings Mary! That's a great photo, as all of your photos are. Oh dear Mary, my heart goes out to you and your Dad. My Mom and I will be "visiting" my Dad this weekend. Which is really tough, too. I'll be thinking about you. Hugs to you and him.NatureWomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04272529400065960820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35675426.post-26853484970038564692007-10-25T19:13:00.000-04:002007-10-25T19:13:00.000-04:00Mary, your lovely photos WILL make your dad smile....Mary, your lovely photos WILL make your dad smile. Lots of caring people with be thinking of you as you travel north.<BR/><BR/>So glad you have rain!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35675426.post-53403578257219979092007-10-25T16:50:00.000-04:002007-10-25T16:50:00.000-04:00Mary--it really is the long goodbye, isn't it.Hope...Mary--it really is the long goodbye, isn't it.<BR/>Hope your visit with your dad is good, and that he has moments where you & he connect sweetly.KGMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05165941950953938943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35675426.post-50423197562447055272007-10-25T11:23:00.000-04:002007-10-25T11:23:00.000-04:00I experienced the same kind of thing with my grand...I experienced the same kind of thing with my grandfather fifteen years ago, and I'm dreading the day when I'll repeat those experiences with my father. It makes me cry just to think it might happen. <BR/><BR/>Stay strong, Mary, and share everything you can with him. Time marches over us all--it's just the way of the world. <BR/><BR/>I love your photos, and I'll be thinking of you when I'm in Cape May, my friend.dguzmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01811101661607351661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35675426.post-51379705654617881802007-10-25T11:19:00.000-04:002007-10-25T11:19:00.000-04:00I tried composing this several times.... I just do...I tried composing this several times.... I just don't know the words to say..... I have aging parents also and it is very hard to see them get old. I hope you have a wonderful time with your Dad.Kerri Farleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07617128767655910810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35675426.post-57168654867942814472007-10-25T10:10:00.000-04:002007-10-25T10:10:00.000-04:00Mary,I can only imagine how difficult it must be t...Mary,<BR/><BR/>I can only imagine how difficult it must be to see your father in a state of decline for so long. I hope bringing him some of your photos will interest him. They are beautiful and you really have a talent for photography. Love the pics of the dogs!cat59https://www.blogger.com/profile/10072166570056696838noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35675426.post-2614937174324709142007-10-25T09:04:00.000-04:002007-10-25T09:04:00.000-04:00Praying for you and what your future visit holds. ...Praying for you and what your future visit holds. Sometimes life seems unbearably full of heaviness. But such is what we have.<BR/><BR/>Praying for Lynne, too...Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03119943581970095780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35675426.post-86688060696391220542007-10-25T07:50:00.000-04:002007-10-25T07:50:00.000-04:00Hi Mary,I enjoyed your post today. I know exactly...Hi Mary,<BR/>I enjoyed your post today. I know exactly how you feel. Visiting my grandmother when she was in the nursing home was one of the most difficult times for me. She was such a vibrant woman. I think you should not only share your blogs and photos with your dad, but you might want to consider putting together a small photo album for him with your beautiful nature photos and the photos of the dogs that make us all smile. It might be something that will bring him more joy than you'll know. You're in my thoughts...Sandy MAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35675426.post-9561165552414835382007-10-25T06:47:00.000-04:002007-10-25T06:47:00.000-04:00My heart goes out to you Mary. I know these visit...My heart goes out to you Mary. I know these visits are bittersweet as you have so many wonderful memories of the life he lived until now and he seems sort of unreachable, but I guarantee you he loves knowing you've come and would be so proud of how much you have embraced the beauty around you. Many hugs to you friend.<BR/><BR/>Rain... thanks be to God.<BR/><BR/>Prayers ascend for Lynne...Jaynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14057094040409159429noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35675426.post-21813105296615623182007-10-25T05:46:00.000-04:002007-10-25T05:46:00.000-04:00Dear, Mary. So many will understand. Who knows bu...Dear, Mary. So many will understand. Who knows but your father may be wishing for the same. Show him all your photos :-)Chrissiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18446592829079921028noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35675426.post-24713503435236455262007-10-25T01:34:00.000-04:002007-10-25T01:34:00.000-04:00Hi Mary - I'm in agreement with everyone else. As...Hi Mary - I'm in agreement with everyone else. As a matter of fact, show him more than just this post. Show him lots of beautiful pictures. And we can pray he'll make a few comments for each picture you show him. If not, at least you tried. It sounds like all of us baby boomers have already had to deal with this sort of thing with one parent or another. God be with you and your dad during your visit.Mary Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08077077785157768787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35675426.post-2424338822741000372007-10-25T01:00:00.000-04:002007-10-25T01:00:00.000-04:00Of course you know that if Maryland is too melanch...Of course you know that if Maryland is too melancholy, it's only a hop-skip-and-jump to Cape May!<BR/><BR/>(Sorry, I'm still trying to change your mind.)<BR/><BR/>;-)<BR/><BR/>Enjoy your time with your dad, Mary. He's a treasure to you, regardless of whether he knows it or not, right?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35675426.post-59872396809779665742007-10-25T00:49:00.000-04:002007-10-25T00:49:00.000-04:00Mary, I'll bet he loves the photos. The dogs alone...Mary, I'll bet he loves the photos. The dogs alone are worth a few chuckles! What a good idea to print out your post and share it with him. <BR/><BR/>Cool waxwing photo!LostRoseshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06586462466899344347noreply@blogger.com